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Dear Gwen, I am a
Taurean (born 9.45 am 30/4/76 in Oxford UK) in a long term relationship
with an Ariean (born around 4 am 12/4/72 London UK). Over the last 6
months I have to my total bewilderment gotten involved with a Scorpio
man (born about 1:50 AM 25/10/73 London UK). I am in a state of utter
confusion, I love Mr. Aries but our relationship is stagnant and has
been for a while, and I think I've fallen in love with Mr. Scorpio
despite my best efforts not to. This situation is SO unlike me I feel
Scorpio man must be special but am I deluded under the influence of the
Neptune-sun transit I have going on?? Can you give me any indication of
where I'm going with this?? Thank you so much. Vicky
Dear Vicky, It's quite perceptive of you to realize that transiting
Neptune squaring your Sun has had something to do with drawing you into
the relationship with the Scorpio.
With Neptune, there is
always some kind of subterfuge or deceit, either by us or someone we're
involved with. I usually warn clients about getting involved
romantically with someone while under a Neptune transit because once the
rose-colored glasses come off we often feel as though the person has
misrepresented them self somehow. However, it's usually the one
experiencing the Neptune transit that is seeing what they want to see.
Vicky, I can't advise
you as to what you should do. The planets will bring in new experiences
and new relationships that will represent the major transit you're
experiencing. In your case, it's Neptune....planets are people, and when
we have a Neptune transit going on in our chart it will bring in a
Neptunian type of person and experience. Mr. Scorpio has a wide natal
conjunction of Venus and Neptune; this makes me question his capacity to
be faithful. Also, in transit right now he has Pluto conjunct his natal
Venus and Saturn opposing it. The Pluto conjunction can indicate meeting
someone that evokes some kind of dramatic change within himself and the
Saturn opposing his Venus can indicate obstacles within the
relationship, such as a third party involved or a geographical problem.
I can certainly see
how your relationship with the Aries has become a bit stagnant. For the
last 3 years, he has had Saturn opposing his Venus, Mars, Moon and
Mercury....this has put him into somewhat of a fear mode....it's very
difficult for people to be open, spontaneous or loving under these
Does the Aries know about your relationship with the Scorpio? This could
be a wake-up call for him; very often when we go through the transits
that he has been going through we tend to take our partner for granted.
All in all, I don't
think I would make long range plans with the Scorpio, Vicky. It looks to
me as though he may be a catalyst in helping you to end a relationship
that perhaps you have outgrown. In a lot of ways Neptune will test us as
to how we handle a situation. The low road with a Neptune transit would
be sneaking around and lying; the high road would be expressing your
truth and being as open and honest as possible.
I hope this has helped; so often when the trans-Saturnian planets such
as Pluto, Neptune and Uranus are involved, situations are karmic and all
the advice or head knowledge in the world cannot prevent a karmic
experience from taking place. Just be true to yourself Vicky.
Blessings . . .
Gwen, I have a question for you regarding relationships. I am single
again after a second failed marriage, both ending because of unfaithful
husbands. Am I ever destined to find that special person whom I can be
happy with for the rest of my life? My birth date is Oct. 31, 1951 at
7:58 am, born in Trenton, NJ.
Dear Nancy: In
analyzing your birth chart, I have noticed that the rulers of your 7th
house of partnership and marriage and your 5th house of love affairs are
both placed in the sign of Virgo in the 10th house of business and
career. Do you tend to make your marriages into more of a business
partnership and somehow let the romance slip away? There's a tendency
with planets in Virgo to somehow give away their power... a sort of
peace at any price consciousness.
Something else of interest is that there's a past life-time carry-over
of abandonment issues that is still in your memory bank this life-time.
You have the Sun, Mercury, the Moon all in Scorpio in the 12th house
along with Scorpio rising. The 12th house has to do with the
unconscious, secret enemies, (sometimes the secret enemy is ourselves)
and past lifetime scenarios. Scorpio's greatest fear whether conscious,
or unconscious is fear of abandonment. This is the MAJOR issue you're
working on this lifetime. One of the really powerful gifts people with
planets in Scorpio have going for them is their ability to totally
If you have been making your relationships into more of a business
partnership, now is the time to practice up on your Scorpio magnetism
and sense of mystery... you're a very sensual and charismatic
woman....don't let your Virgo planets take over.... use them where
needed... in business and use your powerful Scorpio energy in
relationships... be a little more mysterious and a little less
Beginning July of 2001 you have some very interesting opportunities
coming your way. At that time you will have Jupiter trining your Sun...
this will bring in men of really good character that will want to be
kind and generous with you. Also, you will have Saturn transiting your
7th house of partnership and marriage... this transit often-times leads
to marriage. So, in answering your question, I would say that yes, you
can still meet that life-time mate, but meanwhile utilize this time in
getting to know yourself and begin to accentuate the positive and
minimize the negative. Blessings
Update: As predicted by
Gwen Oana, Nancy did become involved with a kind and generous man and
they married in
Blessings . . .
I love your website, and it is such a wonderful thing you do to answer
questions free of charge. I consider you a true astrologer. I was born
7/29/46, 2:03 pm EST in Baltimore, Md. My question is this: I have been
involved with a divorced woman 17 years my junior for over four years
now. She had a miserable marriage and as a result is afraid to, or just
doesn't want to be in a committed relationship again. However, I do, and
I would like to know if you think I should look elsewhere for a life
partner. Her birth data is 3/4/64, 2:51 PM, EST, Manhattan, NY.
Thank you, George
There are some definite plusses and minuses in this relationship. One of
the most significant dynamics between two people which indicates
attraction and longevity is either Venus, the Moon or Mars in the same
sign as the other person's rising sign. You and your friend have that.
Her rising sign is Leo; your Moon is in Leo, your rising sign is
Scorpio, her Moon is in Scorpio.
I can definitely see that you are both attracted to one another,
however, because of her Moon being in Scorpio, and four of her Pisces
planets in the eighth house...she has some serious abandonment issues
and issues surrounding power and control. At times, she might feel a
little overpowered by you George. With your Scorpio rising and four
planets in Leo, I imagine you can come across a little forceful at
To be honest with you, I don't think this relationship is meant to be a
life-long commitment. Currently, Saturn in Gemini is squaring your Venus
in Virgo, this square began March of 2001. This can be a difficult
transit, particularly in the area of relationships....it's a testing
time....if there's enough love and respect between the two people, they
are able to navigate through it without breaking up. However, your
friend has transiting Uranus conjunct Saturn in her seventh house of
partnership and marriage; this transit usually indicates a
break-up...Saturn represents the status quo, and Uranus is the
revolutionary planet. If the two of you have stopped growing as a
couple, more than likely Uranus will break down the crystallization of
Saturn and begin to free you both up.
My sense is that once Saturn leaves Gemini in June of 2003 and is no
longer squaring your Venus in Virgo you will meet your life-time
partner....to be more specific, between June and August of 2003.
Take good care George and enjoy your Jupiter ride which
begins August 2nd of this year and ends Sept. of 2003. Jupiter will be
in Leo which will put you in the limelight and ease some of the burdens
you may be carrying.
Blessings . . .
Dear Gwen, I am a 45
year old female, born 7-21 53 at 12:11 A.M. in Sioux Falls, S.D.,
married 22 years to a Sag. born 12-17-49 at 1:00 pm in Schenectady, N.Y.
I am finding myself in a " marriage and life reassessment situation."
I'm holding on by a rope which also seems to be around my neck! What do
you see in regard to my marriage and my current life situation? Thanks, Demartini
First of all, what I'm seeing here is that you have an exact " trine"
from transiting Uranus in Aquarius to your natal Venus in Gemini. This
is a very liberating aspect as Uranus is always about breaking us out of
ruts and giving us a greater sense of freedom and individuality. If we
do nothing about this call from the heavens, we will experience exactly
what you described....a rope around our neck!
This is a time for you to experiment, explore and by all means to free
yourself from old values and rigid conditioning issues. Your husband is
beginning his 2 and a half year Saturn square Venus which means he has
lessons to learn without you. Venus represents our ability to give and
receive love.... Perhaps he's been taking you for granted for the last
few years and needs to take a look at this. He can't do that if you're
always there for him. Enjoy this time in your life... Get in touch with
your Venus and Jupiter in Gemini...write a book.. give a speech....get
your sense of humor back!
Blessings . . .
Dear Gwen, I have a
son born 10-2-63 at 11:41 PDT, who is extremely manipulative, seeming to
thrive on keeping control of everyone and everything or he suffers bouts
of anger and depression. Does this kind of thing show up in his natal
chart and will it always be his way of interacting with others? Thanks,
In looking at your son's natal chart, I can see that he's extremely
intelligent and mentally agile. In the third house of the mind and
brothers and sisters, he has Pluto conjunct Mercury which shows he is
capable of using his penetrating mind in a very manipulative and
controlling way; because he feels as though getting to the truth
("truth" as he sees it) is more important than comfort.
When he feels as though he's losing control in some way, this same
aspect can cause bouts of depression and rage... Control is an enormous
issue with his planetary aspect. Because of the planets being placed in
the sign Virgo, what is needed here is humility, this is not an easy
lesson for him to learn coupled with his Aries Moon and Mars in Scorpio.
However, with some maturing and a few harsh nudges from the universe, I
feel that between July of 2000 and July of 2001, he will begin to
recognize how his behavior is distancing the very people that he needs
to love him the most. Jupiter will be trining his Fourth house Sun and
Venus in Libra....this should help him look at himself more clearly and
begin to allow his Libra sense of fair play and justice express itself.
Don't give up on him. Aries Moon people take a little longer to
Blessings . . .
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